Word of the Day for Sunday, August 19, 2012lodestar \LOHD-stahr\, noun:
1. Something that serves as a guide or on which the attention is fixed.
A care giver's lodestar must continuously shine reminders to assist the self first, no matter how strong his/her inclination is to do otherwise. Care givers are stars themselves; their frequent burning out marks their dedication but also indicates their inattention to necessary, personal self care.